St. Patrick’s Day was a watershed day on the journey

St. Patrick’s Day 2015 will go down as a watershed day on my journey.

Much to my dismay I could not find anything green or Irish to wear this morning. As I frantically searched, I fondly remembered that my late wife Jean used to order me a snappy green boutonniere every March 17th when I was working at the Minneapolis Star Tribune.

As I reflected, a deep joy came over me as I remembered that typically sweet, loving gesture Jean made every year. It was vintage Jean. It was kind, imaginative and full of love. Jean always heard a different drummer and came up with cute, unique expressions of affection for everyone in the family. Her creativity made loving her a special adventure

It was a wonderfully delightful memory that I savored for several minutes.

And, that’s the watershed part.

That delightful memory triggered deep love, gratitude and affection instead of the grief it would have provoked just a few months ago. This time I savored. I didn’t sob. I didn’t tear up. The memory wasn’t full of regret and sadness.

I celebrated. Nine months after Jean’s death I have reached a point where memories are sweet celebrations of love and not debilitating moments of grief and sorrow.

I immediately went to the florist to buy a green boutonniere. Unsurprisingly, you had to have the foresight to order it in advance as Jean always did so thoughtfully.

So if you see me today you will not see a green boutonniere on my lapel, but I assure you it’s there on my heart. And, I am smiling, not crying. The journey goes on.

Tim J McGuire is the author of “Some People Even Take Them Home” A Disabled Dad, A Down Syndrome Son and Our Journey To Acceptance

3 thoughts on “St. Patrick’s Day was a watershed day on the journey

  1. Tim-

    I just read this and am so happy for you today. What a wonderful outlook and I’m sure the warmth you are feeling today will be repeated numerous times while you continue your journey. You are a lucky man to have so many sweet memories of love to cherish – I wish you all the very best. You deserve it!


    Margie Albert
    Focus on Customer Success


  2. Sue Sweeney Steele


    Today marks the third anniversary of my brother-in-law’s passing. My sister Kathleen’s husband. It happened here in Los Barriles, Baja Sur, Mexico. I wish she was doing as well as you. I think I should sign her up for your blog. I think I will send it to her. Your blogs help me!

    I was happy to read your tender memory.


  3. Tears!! This is beautiful! When I first read your words about the boutonniere I thought, “I hope he went and bought himself one.” And reading about the memory giving you joy brightened my morning. Thanks for sharing.


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